Looking back over the years, I’ve had lots of amazing friends. However, I have also had a lot of “what the heck was I thinking” moments.
As a person who likes to fix things, including people, I have taken on a lot of projects. I tend to see the potential in people that they don’t even see yet. It is what makes me a good life coach, but doesn’t create great friendships. Because of this, I have learned the hard way again and again, you can’t be with people, on any level, just for potential.
Not only is it unfair to them (since they shouldn’t be hanging around someone who is waiting for them to change), but ultimately, I was prolonging them from changing themselves. The only way true change can be made.
Here’s the truth: I chose those friendships. I built them up to what they were, continued to stay in them long past the time I should have and then victimized myself on how I never felt heard, appreciated or supported.
Not my shining hour.
At this point, I want to be in friendships that feel good. Where I feel heard, supported and they are in it to win as much as I am. That way, I can be really great for them, too. Mutual admiration societies rock!
Also, isn’t that kind of the point?