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Why Wait?

The holidays are right around the corner and with that comes late nights, celebrations, amazing food and beverages and all of a sudden every spare minute you have has just gone out the window.  But, not to worry New Year’s is on the way to save us all because THIS is the year that we get it all right!

So, if this sounds familiar don’t worry, you and the majority of the population currently residing on this rock that we call home have had the same thought process.  “I am going to take it easy, enjoy my holidays and come New Year, I am going to get to work.”  For some people it works, but for the most part, check out the gyms, the running/biking trails and diet/nutrition centers in March.  You will have the answer.  There is a reason that people in the gyms and centers call them “resolutioners”.

Now, I am not going to throw a bunch of facts and figures at you, on any given day you can turn on the television and see some blurb about the rise of obesity and a host of other weight-related diseases and how it has reached epidemic proportions.  Besides you can “google it” just as well as I can.  Why I am writing this post?  It’s not to tell you about the dangers of obesity or being “skinny fat”.  If you want to have that discussion, feel free to contact me, I love discussing health and fitness.  This post however, is about waiting.  Why are you waiting?

People have a tendency to put off anything that takes them out of their comfort zone.  It’s so easy to say “I am going to get prepared and start this (enter the time frame of your choosing here)”.  “The holidays are here and I am just too busy”, “Work/family/etc is just too crazy right now”.  I know I have used every one of those excuses if not once at least one hundred times.  Some people are very accustomed to putting everyone and everything else before them.  Other people are too embarrassed/uncomfortable to ask for help.  Then there are those that just straight up do not want to be bothered and are quite happy to continue to allow the miracle of medical science to keep them functioning.

So, I am going to provide you with a list of a few of the excuses/reasons as to why you should wait (some I have heard and some I have used) and in case you are wondering, no, I am not some skinny fitness enthusiast, not by a long shot.  Okay, I am enthusiastic about fitness and nutrition, now.  I have had an ongoing battle with my weight for many years.  I am in the process of winning that battle, but the road has not been easy and it was filled with a lot of u-turns.  Now, on to the list!

1)       The holidays – I don’t have time. 

Okay, granted the holidays can be a very busy time.  But there is something that you can do about that.  You can give yourself 30 minutes three times a week to take a walk, do some squats, crunches or pushups.  At some point you are going to be watching something on the computer or television, use that time, multi-task.  It doesn’t even have be 30 minutes all in one shot.

2)      But what about my holiday foods?  It’s not the same without Aunt Maggie’s amazing mile-high pie.

You don’t have to give up all of your favorites.  But, you don’t have to have all of them every day.  Consider this, have you noticed how much more you enjoy something when you have not had it in a while or if you have not over-loaded on a bunch of other things?  Anticipation can really make something that much better.  So, take a break occasionally from the rich foods, drink some water instead of punch, soda, alcoholic drinks, etc.  There is enjoyment in moderation.  In spite of what the commercials are telling us.

3)      There is too much chaos in my life right now.

This was one of my favorites.  Unfortunately, it has been proven that exercise of some form is a great stress-reliever.  Exercise has become my go-to for stress.  Take it from someone who was not allowed to leave a hospital because the doctor was concerned that she was going to have a stroke any minute.  Now, I am not saying go out and run five-miles after being dormant for 10 years.  What I am saying is take a little bit of time, go for a walk, do some yoga, ride a bike and just let your mind focus on the fitness for a little bit and when you are done, you will be more clear-headed and feel better for it.

4)      I don’t know what to do.

This one can be over-whelming.  Ask questions (you can contact me).  Get online.  Talk to your doctor.  Occasionally, you will run into a bone-head that is condescending and judgmental but for the most part, people want to help.

5)      I am too embarrassed to go to the gym.  All of those “fit” people are going to judge me.

Since I have been going to the gym, I have had exactly two occasions where someone made me feel uncomfortable.  The first time it hurt.  The second time, I put it down to what it was, someone who was very shallow and still had a lot of life-lessons that needed to be learned.  For the most part, everyone in the gym is focusing on their workout and getting through it.  But, I do occasionally get a good job and keep it up from the people that recognize me and know that I am committed.

6)      I am too tired.

Yeah, it’s going to take some time to get used to a fitness program.  However, you are going to feel better, sleep better and have more energy to do things. Including exercise.

7)      I am not ready.

This is one is obviously an internal battle that you are going to have to sort out for yourself.  What do you need to get ready?  You have to figure out your why.  Have a frank conversation with your doctor, ask him/her what your future looks like if you don’t make a change.  If you are happy with that outlook, you have your answer.  If you are not happy with that outcome, then ask them what they recommend.

 

So why wait?  Nothing but good can come from making healthy life-style changes.  Here is the disclaimer, if you have a medical condition or have not exercised in a long time, talk to your doctor, get the okay before you start exercising.  But, don’t wait to start making healthier food choices.  If you start now, even in small steps you will see changes and when the New Year is here you won’t be a “resolutioner”.  You will already be committed and in the habit of living well.  That’s exactly what it is, a habit, one of the few habits that you won’t be told to break.

begin where you are 2/6/17

Read: Psalm 136:1–9

Bible in a Year: Exodus 36–38; Matthew 23:1–22

The heavens declare the glory of God; the skies proclaim the work of his hands.

Psalm 19:1

 

I came across a solitary flower growing in a meadow today—a tiny purple blossom “wasting its sweetness in the desert air,” to borrow from the poet Thomas Gray’s wonderful line. I’m sure no one had seen this particular flower before, and perhaps no one will see it again. Why this beauty in this place? I thought.

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Nature is never wasted. It daily displays the truth, goodness, and beauty of the One who brought it into being. Every day nature offers a new and fresh declaration of God’s glory. Do I see Him through that beauty, or do I merely glance at it and shrug it off in indifference?

All nature declares the beauty of the One who made it. Our response can be worship, adoration, and thanksgiving—for the radiance of a cornflower, the splendor of a morning sunrise, the symmetry of one particular tree.

Author C. S. Lewis describes a walk in the forest on a hot summer day. He had just asked his friend how best to cultivate a heart thankful toward God. His hiking companion turned to a nearby brook, splashed his face and hands in a little waterfall, and asked, “Why not begin with this?” Lewis said he learned a great principle in that moment: “Begin where you are.”

A trickling waterfall, the wind in the willows, a baby robin, the blue sky, a tiny flower. Why not begin your thankfulness with this? —David Roper

Father, may we always be reminded that You have placed beauty here because it reflects Your character. We praise You! What are you thankful for today?

[God] is the beauty behind all beauty.   –Steve DeWitt

INSIGHT: This worship song praises the wonders of God’s creation and His providential intervention for His people. The repeating refrain is, “His love endures forever.” The list of items for which to thank God, our Creator, are vast and extensive: God is good (v. 1), He is over all other “gods” (v. 2), He is the Lord of lords (v. 3), God alone does great wonders (v. 4), God by His understanding made the heavens (v. 5), He placed the earth on the waters (v. 6), He made the great lights (v. 7), He made the sun to govern the day (v. 8), and He made the moon and stars to govern the night (v. 9). As we behold the wonders of nature, we marvel at their Creator.  Dennis Fisher

 

5 signs you’re too sick for work

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Calling the boss for a sick day is never fun, but there are times when you’re simply too sick to work.

Deciding that you are too sick to work is, for many people, wrenching. You probably could tough out a bad cold, but you don’t want to expose your co-workers and the public to a contagious illness. (Plus, no one wants to be the person in the office who can’t stop coughing!)

“Going to work means we get paid, the workplace is staffed, your co-workers don’t have more to do,” says Thomas Fekete, MD, section chief of infectious diseases at Temple University in Philadelphia. “Staying home may mean you, don’t get paid, or you have to use sick time. It’s a tough call.”

To help you resolve your dilemma, here are five ways to tell if you’re too sick to work and should stay home instead:

1. You have a contagious illness. As rotten as you feel right now, think about how bad you’ll feel if you do go to work and everyone else gets whatever you have, too. The problem, Dr. Fekete says, is that most of us are wrong about when to stay home. “The most contagious period is at the beginning, before you get really sick,” he says. So, if you go to bed feeling slightly sick, and wake up feeling a bit under the weather, that’s the day to stay home. The following days, when you actually will feel sicker, are days when you are less likely to share your contagious illness. Of course, if you work with vulnerable populations, such as hospitalized patients, elderly people, young children, or people with impaired immune systems, you may need to review your employer’s policies about when you can go back to work. And while you’re staying home, Fekete advises steering clear of other germy public situations, such as the grocery store, library, or movie theatre.

 

2. You’re worse than you think. “Most of us are sicker than we think we are,” says Fekete. The problem, again, is the first 6 to 12 hours, when your symptoms can get markedly worse. This means that by the time you start to feel really rotten or have bad symptoms, you might already be at work. One of the measures of health we all look at is fever, but that actually can be relatively easily managed with medication, says Fekete, as can the aches and pains that go with it. But if your fever is accompanied by weakness and confusion, or diarrhea or vomiting you can’t control, stay home. Fekete recommends making the call yourself on day one, but if you think you need to stay home for a second day, call your doctor for advice.

 

3. Your workplace isn’t “sick friendly.” Most people really can power through at work without making their cold or flu worse or getting other people sick — if they have the right accommodations. But you have to consider where you work. Some factors that might make it worth your while to stay home, even if you think you could get to the end of the day, include:

  • Limited or tightly controlled access to a bathroom during the day
  • Little or no ability to wash your hands often or cleanly dispose of facial tissue after you sneeze or wipe your nose
  • Nowhere to store or use any medication you need
  • Working directly with the public or with food that goes to the public — it would be unprofessional to sneeze, cough, and sniffle under these circumstances
  • You have to make life or death decisions (like a surgeon or an airplane pilot)
  • You work outside in the heat or in a strenuous job, like construction, and you don’t have the option of doing a more low-key task for a day or two

 

4. Your medications interfere with your job. This is an instance where you have to know yourself. Some people can take a cold or flu medication without side effects while others find themselves struggling with daytime sleepiness and foggy thinking. Antihistamines are particularly likely to cause this response, as are any medications that advertise their ability to help you sleep at night. Even if you’re just foggy-headed, “that’s not the day you want to make the company budget or closing arguments at court,” says Fekete. One option is to go to work and operate on a reduced schedule.

5. Your kids are getting sick. “Kids staying home is, on average, better for society because kids are much better at transmitting these things among themselves,” Fekete says. So if you are under the weather and you suspect they are too, stay home with the kids and take your entire family out of the contagious illness loop, at least for one day. Then, once you all get through the early day or two of an illness, you can probably all get back to your routines, even if you still aren’t feeling 100 percent.

Finally, says Fekete, it’s important to participate in and advocate for a supportive work environment. Your co-workers will have to pick up the slack when you are out, so do the same for them, without complaining or second-guessing how sick they were. Look into whether your employer has a forgiving policy toward sick days, and advocate for change if there isn’t one.

 

 

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Reviewed by Pat F. Bass, III, MD, MPH

how to connect with absolutely anyone – provide massive help

“Don’t join an easy crowd; you won’t grow. Go where the expectations and the demands to perform are high.” –

 

Provide massive help. Even the biggest and most powerful people in the world have something they’d like help with. Too many people never reach out to those above them due to the fear that they wouldn’t be able to offer anything in return. But you have more to offer than you realize: write an article or blog post about them, share their project with your community, offer to spread their message through a video interview with them. Give real thought to who you could connect them with to benefit their goals. If it turns out you can’t be that helpful, the gesture alone will stand out.

Guest Post- “just be a man”

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Just be a man, man up, men are supposed to, let a man do it, find a good man. We all have heard these phrases used to challenge, encourage, or in some cases to antagonize a Man. Just be a man? I would even argue that it has become stereotypical to say “be a man”. I recall the day my 3 brothers and I were ridiculed by our dad. It was summer (school was out) the 3 tiered wooden steps that were connected to the front door of the house were loose, as were the railings. I believe at the time my youngest brother was 8 and my oldest brother 15. My father came home and was mad that we hadn’t fixed the steps. Our thought was, fix it with what, but neither of us said anything. He cursed and ranted while searching for a hammer and nails and lobbed the following; “you are a bunch of girls, not one man in the bunch”. Wow! Back in the day, I guess that was considered, being a man. I believe that behaviors are learned. That was a hell of a lesson.

 

As young men mature they pick up on a wide range of behaviors typically from the men they spend most of their time with or with those they have chosen to emulate. Some young men pick grandpa, a favorite uncle, cousin, perhaps their brother, a teacher, their buddy’s dad, the pastor, etc. Others are just who they are because of heredity. So you know what you get? Nothing different,someone that essentially has taken on another man’s traits. Men are not complicated we are incarnations of a previous man. The only thing that separates one from another are their fingerprints. Once a boy develops into a man, whether it was a learned or inherited behavior, he now takes on another aspect of life called, a relationship with the opposite sex. This is quite possibly the area of much angst for men and women.

 

Women are often overheard saying, “I just want to find a good man.” Someone like their dad, someone like their grandpa, hell someone like their sister’s husband (LOL), their friend’s husband, just a good man. Some men lack in romance, but are great with kids. (Good man?) Some men will romance the hell out of a lady, but don’t want to listen to anything she has to say.(Bad man?) Some men will work hard and bring home all the bacon and sit on the couch until it is time to head out and do it again. (Good man?) How about the guy that starts a relationship, tells a woman he loves her and then realizes that he has some things about himself that he needs to work on? (Bad man?) How about the man that marries a woman and stops doing all the things that he did for her to fall in love with him? (Bad man?) How about the guy that takes you on dates and hangs out with you but doesn’t want a commitment? (Bad guy?) There are truly some bad men in the world; the abusers, the pedophiles, the dead beat dads, and the users (take what you have but give nothing). It goes without saying, those are the guys to stay away from. However, the other guys aren’t bad, they are simply being a man.

 

Just be a man, is a stereotypical phrase that means absolutely nothing, because everyone’s definition of being a man is different. Even men have differing opinions of what it means to be a man. My dad at the time felt being a man was fixing something when it is broken. My definition at the time was being able to teach your boys how to fix something when it is broken.

 

It is not hard to be a man, it is hard being the man that one may think you should be.

 

Just be a man!

 

Guest Post

David Bowman

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human trafficking is modern-day slavery… how to reach out to survivors

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Human trafficking fuels the growth of organized crime, undermining health, safety, security, and the basic needs of humanity. It is the fastest growing crime in the world.
A21 EXISTS TO ABOLISH INJUSTICE IN THE 21ST CENTURY.
We are a non-profit organization who believes that we can end human trafficking together.
 Would you like to get involved?

Grab your stationery and pull out a pen! The simple act of writing to a survivor in one of our homes is an incredible encouragement to survivors along their journey. But don’t be surprised if it has a great impact on you too.

We would love for you to write a letter or card to the girls in our shelter. Address your letter along the lines of “Dear Beautiful” or “Lovely,” and write an encouraging note that places value and worth upon the girls.

In the contents of your letter, be sure to refrain from stating your own beliefs or talking too much about your job or lifestyle, as these girls have all come from differing backgrounds and deserve to be respected and not made to feel bad about their situations. Obviously, they have been through a lot, and we ask that in your letters you do not claim to understand their situations or try to relate to what they have been through.

Please end your letter by signing with your first name only, and do not include any personal details. These letters are for the purpose of encouragement and support.

These letters can be mailed to:

 

United States

California (Head Office)

The A21 Campaign
427 E. 17th Street #F223
Costa Mesa, CA 92627 USA
Tel: 1.949.202.4681
Fax: 1.949.612.0827

North Carolina

Email: info.ec@a21.org

 

4 Things to Remember When Life Feels Hopeless

 

Every day I fully appreciate the fact my life is on the uneventful side.  I wish I could say all days are sunny but I experience  showers and severe thunderstorms as well.
We all experience challenging times; how we handle our challenges and come out of it should be listed under our greatest lesson, and stored away for future reference.
I find myself many times in prayer (my first cry for help), then talking to family and friends. However, through it all I always, ALWAYS say to myself…“one day you will wake up, and it will be better” and lo and behold…that’s exactly what happens…every time.  
What helps me cope with life, good or bad? I start with prayer, talk to my family, friends, and always keep a positive outlook.
With Luv,
L.

 

4 Things to Remember When Life Feels Hopeless

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“However long the night, the dawn will break.” ~African Proverb

Were there times in your life where it felt anything that could go wrong went wrong? That was me five years ago.
In a span of nine months, my marriage to a partner of eight years broke down, I lost four family members to unexpected deaths, and I suddenly found myself hurtled from living the dream life to being jobless, penniless, and homeless.
To say life knocked the wind out of me would be an understatement.
Each time I picked myself up, another blow would send me sprawling toward a sense of utter defeat. It was as if a tornado swept through my entire being and left me empty and devoid of hope, strength, and any ounce of self-belief.
Shell-shocked, I spent that whole year crying. I would wake up crying in the mornings, run to cry in public toilets during the day, and end my days crying myself to sleep. It was a dark period of my life where everything was one blurry haze of tears.
As those days of hopelessness stretched on, the only thing I could focus on was taking baby steps every day to build a new life and a new future.
It was an arduous journey where I was often taking one step forward and two steps backward. Many times I felt like I would never see the light at the end of the tunnel, and I struggled to find the strength to inch forward.
Five years on, I finally came out the other side. My new life and the new me are still under construction, but I now have in me a spring of strength to propel me forward, regardless of setbacks or how grim the situation seems.
This newfound capacity did not develop overnight. It grew gradually as I practiced and incorporated into my life the valuable insights below.
If you’re going through difficult times now, the following four reminders may help you be more resilient.

Remember that life always changes, things can get better

When troubles strike, it can feel like things will only get worse, but that is the pessimist in us talking. If we keep the faith and respond to the situation with positive and constructive actions, we can break out of the cycle and things can get better.
Sometimes all we need to do is to simply let time pass and to resist the temptation to overreact and aggravate the problem. During times like these, I would distract myself by actively engaging in other areas of my life.

Recall how you overcame similar struggles in the past

When plodding through a challenging time, it’s natural to be gripped by fear, self-doubt, and pessimistic thoughts that we won’t be able to surmount the obstacles. We forget that it always feels impossible until it’s done, and that we have overcome similar struggles in the past.
A simple but extremely effective thing I did was to list down the occasions in my life where I busted through hurdles and rose above the seemingly insurmountable difficulties. As I penned out the victories, I found renewed faith in myself and in the unknown future, which may well bring the good instead of the bad like I feared.

 Remember that things aren’t as bad as they seem

Zoom out on the issue and focus on the grand scheme of things. More often than not, the raging fires in our lives hijack our attention and we fail to see the big picture. It’s rarely the case that every aspect of our lives went awry at the same time, and it’s critical to keep the right perspective when the going gets tough.
We need to remember that our problems are merely a subset of everything that’s going on in our lives and not let the worries, fear, and anxiety overtake our minds. Even if every area of our lives—namely health, relationship, work, money, and passion—went haywire, the fact that we’re alive means there’s hope for things to turn around.

 Remember that there are still things to appreciate

Do not let the darkness blind you from seeing the stars. It’s human nature to get caught up with the things that are not working out in our lives and forget the good bits. I’m a big believer of a grateful heart being a magnet for abundance and miracles.

No matter how terrible life may seem at any single point, there are always good things if we keep our eyes peeled for them.

Thanks to the challenges, I came to see who my true friends were and I also learned to appreciate many of the blessings I had taken for granted. I might have lost a life partner, loved ones, money, and employment, but these setbacks are transient.

I would always have my degree, knowledge, skills, professional experience and network, and people who care deeply for me to fall back on and to get me back on my feet.

As I grew stronger in handling life’s curveballs, I was grateful that I had developed this invaluable life skill at a young age so I can have the rest of my life to benefit from it. While maintaining a thankful heart, I realized that even in dark times there are stars we can gaze upon if we view our plight through the right lens.

Which areas of your life are you struggling with right now? How do you cope and stay resilient?

 

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About Sylvia HuangSylvia Huang is a blogger on life ideas that make everyday feel good. She writes about habits and productivity, health and wellness, emotional intelligence, and money matters. Her inspiration comes from her experiences living in Japan, France, Australia, Singapore, and Malaysia, working in the fund management industry and travels in over twenty-five countries. Read her other articles on her website, OhSunnyMornings.com.