4 Things to Remember When Life Feels Hopeless

 

Every day I fully appreciate the fact my life is on the uneventful side.  I wish I could say all days are sunny but I experience  showers and severe thunderstorms as well.
We all experience challenging times; how we handle our challenges and come out of it should be listed under our greatest lesson, and stored away for future reference.
I find myself many times in prayer (my first cry for help), then talking to family and friends. However, through it all I always, ALWAYS say to myself…“one day you will wake up, and it will be better” and lo and behold…that’s exactly what happens…every time.  
What helps me cope with life, good or bad? I start with prayer, talk to my family, friends, and always keep a positive outlook.
With Luv,
L.

 

4 Things to Remember When Life Feels Hopeless

Hopeless
“However long the night, the dawn will break.” ~African Proverb

Were there times in your life where it felt anything that could go wrong went wrong? That was me five years ago.
In a span of nine months, my marriage to a partner of eight years broke down, I lost four family members to unexpected deaths, and I suddenly found myself hurtled from living the dream life to being jobless, penniless, and homeless.
To say life knocked the wind out of me would be an understatement.
Each time I picked myself up, another blow would send me sprawling toward a sense of utter defeat. It was as if a tornado swept through my entire being and left me empty and devoid of hope, strength, and any ounce of self-belief.
Shell-shocked, I spent that whole year crying. I would wake up crying in the mornings, run to cry in public toilets during the day, and end my days crying myself to sleep. It was a dark period of my life where everything was one blurry haze of tears.
As those days of hopelessness stretched on, the only thing I could focus on was taking baby steps every day to build a new life and a new future.
It was an arduous journey where I was often taking one step forward and two steps backward. Many times I felt like I would never see the light at the end of the tunnel, and I struggled to find the strength to inch forward.
Five years on, I finally came out the other side. My new life and the new me are still under construction, but I now have in me a spring of strength to propel me forward, regardless of setbacks or how grim the situation seems.
This newfound capacity did not develop overnight. It grew gradually as I practiced and incorporated into my life the valuable insights below.
If you’re going through difficult times now, the following four reminders may help you be more resilient.

Remember that life always changes, things can get better

When troubles strike, it can feel like things will only get worse, but that is the pessimist in us talking. If we keep the faith and respond to the situation with positive and constructive actions, we can break out of the cycle and things can get better.
Sometimes all we need to do is to simply let time pass and to resist the temptation to overreact and aggravate the problem. During times like these, I would distract myself by actively engaging in other areas of my life.

Recall how you overcame similar struggles in the past

When plodding through a challenging time, it’s natural to be gripped by fear, self-doubt, and pessimistic thoughts that we won’t be able to surmount the obstacles. We forget that it always feels impossible until it’s done, and that we have overcome similar struggles in the past.
A simple but extremely effective thing I did was to list down the occasions in my life where I busted through hurdles and rose above the seemingly insurmountable difficulties. As I penned out the victories, I found renewed faith in myself and in the unknown future, which may well bring the good instead of the bad like I feared.

 Remember that things aren’t as bad as they seem

Zoom out on the issue and focus on the grand scheme of things. More often than not, the raging fires in our lives hijack our attention and we fail to see the big picture. It’s rarely the case that every aspect of our lives went awry at the same time, and it’s critical to keep the right perspective when the going gets tough.
We need to remember that our problems are merely a subset of everything that’s going on in our lives and not let the worries, fear, and anxiety overtake our minds. Even if every area of our lives—namely health, relationship, work, money, and passion—went haywire, the fact that we’re alive means there’s hope for things to turn around.

 Remember that there are still things to appreciate

Do not let the darkness blind you from seeing the stars. It’s human nature to get caught up with the things that are not working out in our lives and forget the good bits. I’m a big believer of a grateful heart being a magnet for abundance and miracles.

No matter how terrible life may seem at any single point, there are always good things if we keep our eyes peeled for them.

Thanks to the challenges, I came to see who my true friends were and I also learned to appreciate many of the blessings I had taken for granted. I might have lost a life partner, loved ones, money, and employment, but these setbacks are transient.

I would always have my degree, knowledge, skills, professional experience and network, and people who care deeply for me to fall back on and to get me back on my feet.

As I grew stronger in handling life’s curveballs, I was grateful that I had developed this invaluable life skill at a young age so I can have the rest of my life to benefit from it. While maintaining a thankful heart, I realized that even in dark times there are stars we can gaze upon if we view our plight through the right lens.

Which areas of your life are you struggling with right now? How do you cope and stay resilient?

 

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About Sylvia HuangSylvia Huang is a blogger on life ideas that make everyday feel good. She writes about habits and productivity, health and wellness, emotional intelligence, and money matters. Her inspiration comes from her experiences living in Japan, France, Australia, Singapore, and Malaysia, working in the fund management industry and travels in over twenty-five countries. Read her other articles on her website, OhSunnyMornings.com.

Are You Growing Series, #9 – Growth

are you growing
#9
08/22/16

Growth

“if people refuse to look at you in a new light and they can only see you for what you were, only see you for the mistakes you’ve  made; if they don’t relaize that you are not your mistakes, then they have to GO.

 

Are You Growing Series, #8- Shift Your Self-Perception

are you growing
  #8
05/10/16

Shift Your Self-Perception

 

Feeling worthy requires you to see yourself with fresh eyes of self-awareness and love. Acceptance and love must come from within.

You don’t have to be different to be worthy. Your worth is in your true nature, a core of love and inner goodness. You are a beautiful light. You are love. We can bury our magnificence, but it’s impossible to destroy.

Loving ourselves isn’t a one time event. It’s an endless, ongoing process.

It begins with you, enfolding yourself in your own affection and appreciation.

 

what am i looking for in my life? self-acceptance and confidence

Mute swan Cygnus olor gliding across a mist covered lake at dawn

Self- Acceptance and Confidence

 

to build enough self-confidence to spread my message to wider audiences;

to quiet the negative self-talk;

to move away from negative self-limiting thoughts;

to quell my self doubts and just get on with it so that my life doesn’t feel like it’s one step forward and two steps back;

to recognize all the good in my life, and being content with it.

to worry less about my performance at work (which is very high, but due to family conditioning, I always feel ‘on trial’);

to feel more courage, and less embarrassment;

to be confident about consistently making good decisions;

Are You Growing Series, #7 – Open Your Mind

are you growing
#7
04/13/16

Open Your Mind

In a world where we are constantly exposed to true and false information, it is important to ask questions. To accept every piece of news without question reveals our gullibility. At the same time, blocking information because it conflicts with our core beliefs is also an issue. It is up to each of us to determine core truth when we make our decisions and decide what to share. Recognize when your feelings move from neutral with each topic; understand that you have choice as to how those feelings affect your perception and the outcome.